Supermom/wife or just conceited?

You sound like a supermom/wife to me.

I work 40hrs a week at an office job in addition to teaching 5 ballet classes a week after work. I just earned my Masters degree and I'm due to have my first baby in 3 weeks.

My hubby is a very hard worker, but all of his work takes place at work. I do all of the laundry, all of the cooking, all of the shopping, all of the yard work, all of the "hey, our toilet is broken, can you send someone out?" calls. He pays all of the bills. I have outrageous student loan payments.

I have never, ever said no to sex. Not once. Ever. There was one time when I had my period and wasn't in the mood and he settled for a blowjob so I still count my record as flawless. Oh, and I love every minute of sex always so it's not a problem ;-)

I'm not humble enough to say I'm not a superwife (I am!), but I am scared I won't be able to be a supermom.

Time will tell.

MsAubrey, you clearly are a supermom/wife :)

Let's see - I am a single mother of two boys. I don't work a full-time job - because I am a full-time medical student. I'm in class approximately 40 hours a week, and have to study an additional 30 - 40 hours a week. (We live off student loans currently and no, I don't receive assistance - talk about having to be on a strict budget).

Let's see because I am the only parent I do all the laundry, the vast majority of the house work (though my boys who are 13 & 7 do have chores). I cook dinner every night - and I do not use prepackaged food because of food allergies - so, it's a homemade meal every day. Now, breakfast I take it easy - my boys eat cereal most days. I do live in a townhouse - so no yard work or snow removal for me. I do all of the grocery shopping, shopping for household goods, etc.

As with most parents - there is the school activities and sports stuff for my kids that I take the time to go to. 100% of the discipline is up to me. As is 100% of the praising and support (I love that part of being a parent).

I do all this without any support from any family since we live nearly 1000 miles away from my nearest family member.

It's hard - but it is manageable and is not a bad life.

I count 2 supermoms. Well, 1 and 1 waiting to happen. ;-)

You both have my vote.

Edit. Sorry, Summer. 3!!!

I am awesome myself! I received my nursing license at 19yrs left home received another degree, had a son at 28 bought my house, continued in college again while being t-ball mom, homeroom mom for several yrs, homework and tutor mom for some kids and the official after school pool mom oh and cub scouts oh and then baseball mom. I then traveled and took my son to places for extra education and bought and flipped houses for about 3 yrs. Now I travel pay for my son's college and will be going back to college,hmmm not sure what I want to do now when I grow up. My seed(son) is planted and after much watering love and weeding he is growing =] I am just a little conceited..well I am hot to you guys =O growl

I think you are a supermom... not conceited at all!!!

We do a lot as women, cleaning our home, laundry, grocery shopping, as well as taking care of kids and full time jobs on the side.

I am with Sherry on this one... HOORAY for women! We make the world go around.

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You may be a Super Hero. I was thinking about moving to Utah and picking up 3 more wives so they could accomplish collectively what you accomplish alone.

You proffer that you are either supermom/wife or conceited; your comment suggests you're both. You don't offer the possibility that you're fooling yourself--that you're not supermom/wife, but only adequate at each of chosen roles. But, since failure is not an option, you're unwilling to admit (to yourself) that you just might be better at one if you placed less emphasis on others.

That you wrote this article for thousands to read indicates you are either conceited, or the most needy person I've never met. I kinda think you may be willing to take criticism but are hoping for praise; that you seek praise. . . . well, affirmation that you are, indeed, what all women today claim to be--the three-moniker woman, not only full-time wife and mother, but also a successful {insert profession here} and still find time for {insert hobby}.

The reality of life is no one--man or woman--can devote 100% of themselves to every role they adopt. You're not 100% mother if you have a husband (but at least those two can be juggled with the least effort). If you add a career, then you're 50% worker and 50% wife/mother. If you spend another 8-hrs a week at the gym for yourself, you diminish your role as wife/mother further.

Don't kid yourself; we're none of us superwomen! All you can do is make your choices and do the best you can--but, beware, make sure the best you can is the best you can; even if it means sacrificing one role to adequately fill the requirements of the most important role (which is most important is your choice).

Have I succeeded at "brutal honesty?"

I don't know. It sounds like you are doing what every other woman in America is doing, me included. So in that sense you not "super", just normal. As for the conceited part. Well, if you are doing it just to show off to your peers, then yea. If you are doing it because no one else will do it, or because you enjoy it, then no.